“The more successful a woman is, the more unpopular it is” – Hillary Clinton explains what it’s like to fight as a woman to the U.S. presidency


This article originally appeared at Refinery29.

Among the many criticisms that have followed Hillary Rodham Clinton during her presidential campaign, were also find their clumsy efforts of the connection to millennial voters and women voters. Some claimed that it seem to be enforced much.

Others found that they would “curry favor” – not only young people, but also among minorities. Even President Obama quipped that she was everyone’s “aunt Hillary”, does not understand Facebook.

Nevertheless, I found (a voter, who is Black and Latina) me again last week, as I am with the first woman who ever started a real attempt, to the White house elected, and immediately with your on a wave length.

When I asked you, what is the role of President Clinton had support in their election campaign, lit up her face and she touched my Arm, smiled, and told me she wished more young men would understand the marriage as a Balance and supportive partnership.

I made a mental note to share this with my husband, if I should ever have a: “Hillary Clinton once told me,…”

I could have sworn that there was a small Twinkle was in her eyes

To welcome Hillary Clinton to the headquarters of the Human Rights Campaign arrived in Manhattan to the Refinery29 Team, went out of her, a warm energy that had previously gone often lost through the screen during the election campaign.

As you sat in front of me, it was the Version of the Clinton, the those of describe, you know longer is Cheerful and relaxed (“grown I’m so proud of how very Refinery29!” they cheered) joked good-naturedly about our random matching dark blue pants (“You must be in my closet!”) and greeted every single Person in the room with a handshake, direct eye contact, and some other compliments for the outfit choice.

At the end of our conversation, I asked you to show your Power Pose (you need to look at the Video to see this Moment). And as the cameras were running, she took the time to tell our Team of the Research, she had taken to Power-float and showed us how each of us can make it happen, to feel themselves greater and to make them look bigger by stretching out your arms and legs so that your body took up as much space in claim.

She looked completely ridiculous, as you spread so stood, but you could see that it was OK. Rather, I could have sworn that there was a small Sparkle in her intense blue eyes.

Each person experiences loss

Nevertheless, among all the whole ticket, and, no doubt, that Clinton was also a bit tired. The same blue eyes seemed a little downcast, as we talked about the election night and she took no sheet before the mouth, as they told how devastating this experience was, in our Interview for her new book “What Happened”, is now available.

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Clinton describes her 500-page retelling of the last two years – which she wrote at the dining table of their house in Chappaqua, New York, as a “cathartic”. She also hopes that the book serves as a counselor for young women who aspire to a career in Public service: she wants you to be prepared for how brutal things can be.

“Each person experienced loss,” says Clinton. “Not every person is going to lose a presidential election, but there will be all sorts of losses and disappointments that are part of nature and life.

I pull the curtain for the people, so they can see what it means to be a woman in Public, on a high wire without a safety net poised.”

In your book, there are also some Donald Trump taunts

The book is full of honest Reflections like this one; those which we would have liked more during the election campaign. She shares Details about the aftermath of their defeat, including how your long walks in the woods and marathons have helped at all with the defeat finished.

You think about how hard it was as a young mother, crying that her Baby Chelsea didn’t want to stop. It appeals to even the speculation about her marriage with President Clinton, that it was arranged: “it’s called marriage,” she writes.

“He reads something to me over his shoulder from the kitchen, while our dogs lie at his feet and a Minute later he will sort the bookshelf for the hundredth Time.”

And Yes, there are some Donald Trump taunts. Clinton is surprisingly open to your counterparty and back remember, how she took in 2005, on his wedding part (an “ostentatious, exaggerated spectacle”) and how you “goose bumps”, as he leaned at the debate.

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As regards the latter, she explains that she had to decide in that Moment whether she should put him to a fight, or deliberate behavior. “I kept my cool. It helped that I had to do my whole life with difficult men, who had constantly tried to unsettle me. I have, however, snatched the microphone extra.”

It is exactly the part of the book, Sisterhood called, the Clinton led to speak with us about how it really was to be the first woman, which was established by a major political party for the presidential candidacy.

The Highlights from the Imterview

Even if you do not make the election defeat entirely on your gender, but whose influence on the election campaign, aware. In an exclusive Interview with Refinery29 Clinton speaks openly and honestly about women in politics, their hopes for the future, and much more. Here are the Highlights:

Why, during the election campaign period so be vigilant:
“I have consulted a friend of mine, Sheryl Sandberg, as you know, the COO of Facebook. You and your two best researchers came to me, around me, before the election campaign started right. They said: ‘The research shows that the more successful a man is, the more popular he is. The professionally successful a woman is, the less popular they will be.’

We know that ambitions are a double-edged sword. It is okay for a young man, or a man of any age, ambitious. But an ambitious young woman, or a woman of any age, evokes all sorts of inconsistencies in the minds of the people.”

Whether or not Ivanka Trump, should be held Responsible:
“Every man with him (Trump, n. d. Red) is associated, should be made responsible. You are either on Board or not. And if you are not, you should open your mouth or go. But if you are quiet and pay lip service to contrary opinions drop, then you are part of his Agenda and should be held responsible.”

To Donald Trump’s Sexism:
“If someone who is now our President in the White house, such degrading comments about women to pronounce and the one that was transferred to tape, as he said these things, that gives other people permission to also be against women, against our progress and violate our rights.

And I think it is really important that young women realize that of course we have made progress, but we must all stand up for ourselves, for each other need to stand up for the Laws that we need to stand up. We must of sexism to assume that is so widely used and got by Trump, a new recovery.”

Whether the abortion-a crucial question for Democrats is necessary to:
“I must say that I am proud to be a Democrat and I’m proud of the progress that happened during my life time. And I will continue to represent the policy of the Democratic party. But I don’t think this is an Either-Or. You need a really strong economic message, which I had, I think, but it was difficult to enforce. And you have to stand up for human rights, social justice and fundamental rights. And the right of a woman, your body, and your health insurance is a fundamental human is in control of decision-making itself.”

Her advice for Millennial women:
“I have a little Mantra that I say: Defend yourself, get involved and be persistent. Not every person will stand for election, but you can support those who do it; whether you are fighting for equal pay between men and women, people finally get uniform rules, or a health insurance. You can contribute at the moment with so many things and I have the feeling that the commitment is there. The passion is there.”

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